Just want 5 minutes to yourself?
Ever feel like this? I do all the time. As a mum of 2 small children and working 4 days a week it is near impossible finding time for me, even if it is just 5 minutes to myself. If I am not refereeing a fight, I am picking up an injured child that needs a Band-Aid on right now otherwise his leg is going to fall off. Or its ‘mummy I want this’ or ‘mummy I want that’. It can be never ending some days. Yes, we all love our little ones to pieces but arghhhhh!! can I just go and pee in peace!!
I am writing this to you in absolute peace as hubby has kindly offered to take the kids away for the whole weekend. Can you imagine!? The house is so peaceful. But this isn’t going to happen all the time.
Over the last few months since I decided to start this blog I have been working on strategies to just find 10 or 20 mins to myself each day. And not just 10 mins to lock myself in the bathroom while the kids and pets are yelling at me from the other side, either!
Strategies I have put in place for finding time for me
- Schedule it in. If you feel like you are on the go from dawn till dusk then schedule in your sanity time. Pop it in your diary or on the calendar.
- Make a list. Write down all the things you want to do during this time. Go for a walk, have a bath, just sit down and do nothing, get your hair or nails done, read a book or magazine, have coffee with a friend or have a massage (wouldn’t that be bliss).
- Ask for help. Get someone to watch the kids for half an hour or so. Hubby, family or a friend.
- Chores can wait. The kids are in bed, so instead of getting stuck into washing those dishes or folding those clothes just sit down for 5 mins. Recharge those batteries, then do the chores.
- Are there jobs that you don’t have to do. Can hubby do the dishes, or fold the clothes? They don’t have to be perfect, they just need to be done. Are the kids old enough to prepare their own school bags or pack their own lunch? If the kids are still too little maybe organise an age appropriate chore task that they can do.
- Menu Plan. Make sure you have a menu plan as this will save you valuable time during that horrible ‘witching’ hour (which is always way longer than an hour). Check out my post about Finding Time to Menu Plan.
- Set a timer. If your kids are demanding your time and want you to play, great, go spend time with them. Tell them that they have 20 mins with you and then mummy has to go and do something (anything you like) for 20 mins. Set the timer for both. The kids then know this is their time and this is mummy’s time.
Things to avoid
- Wasting valuable time on technology. Unless one of your items for your list is to catch up on the gossip on Facebook or Twitter. Aim to have a technology free (social media, phones, tablets etc) evening by watching a movie with your hubby or partner.
- Television.If you have a specific list of things you want to do like read a book, go for a walk, do some sewing don’t turn on the TV and get caught up in 53 channels of nothing.
- Feeling guilty that you need time to yourself. If you don’t fill up your own fuel tank first how are you to cope with everything else on your plate?
Now that I have used up your 5 mins of spare time reading this, go and make that list of things you have been wanting to do, prioritise yourself and schedule it in. Here is a sample list which you can find in my VIP Library. To gain access click on my freebies
Enjoy your Time